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Stress vs Anxiety. What's the difference??

Thank you HuffPo for another great explanation of a common misconception.   They share many of the same symptoms, yet they are both triggered differently.  If you find yourself having anxiety attacks PLEASE come see me.  There are NON-medicinal relief strategies we can talk about (Yoga), and if that doesn't work a simple prescription does the trick for many of my patients.   Don't let fear or external situations affect your daily life.  SAY GOODBYE TO STRESS AND ANXIETY.  Say HELLO to a fresh smile. I got you.

-- Dr. Dale

 

The Difference Between Stress And Anxiety

The Huffington Post  | by  Lindsay Holmes
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It’s safe to assume that most of us have experienced stress in one form or another, whether it’s a deadline at work, a family conflict or an important decision. The constricting, chest-pressing fear can feel never ending and can put us into a state of unrest.

With stressful elements churning in our minds, it can be difficult to sort out how we’re feeling, and more importantly, whatlevel of stress we’re experiencing. It’s human nature to exaggerate, so there are many times when we claim we feel something more than we actually do. Enter (often false) statements like “This situation is giving me anxiety.” and “This whole thing is going to make me have a panic attack.”

So how can we tell when our stress is actually yielding to these conditions? David Spiegel, Stanford University’s associate chair of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, says that while the line between stress and anxiety often gets blurred, there are distinct things to be aware of -- including how these emotions affect the body and the root causes of each. Below, find five things you should know about stress, anxiety and how they really compare to each other.

Stress and anxiety share many of the same physical symptoms. stress

Whether you’re tense or suffering from something more, the stressful and anxious emotions can sometimes bring the same feelings of arousal, Spiegel says. Stressful or anxious emotions speed up our heart beatstrigger rapid breathing and cause muscle tension. The similarities taper when anxiety yields to a panic attack, which brings about more severe versions of the symptoms, including chills, headaches, hot flashes and chest pains.

The cause of acute stress is distinctly different from the cause of anxiety . stress

While there is definite overlap between stress and anxiety, Spiegel says that ultimately the two emotions come from two different places. “With stress, we know what’s worrying us but with anxiety you become less aware of what you’re anxious about [in the moment] and the reaction becomes the problem,” Spiegel explains. “You start to feel anxious about being anxious.”

A lot of anxiety can stem from fear... scared

Phobias of events, activities or social situations are all rooted in terror, causing the person suffering from the disorder to panic when they come face-to-face with that stressor, Spiegel explains. “Anxiety is like a snowball,” he says. “Anxiety converts fear into feelings and people who suffer from it tend to avoid what’s making them fearful, which can make it worse.”

Writing in The Huffington Post, clinical counselor Megan Devine details how her constant fear of the unknown left her crippled with anxiety. In order to overcome that fear, she suggests addressing the fear head-on, then taking steps from there. “Remember that calming your anxiety is not one bit related to whether something unexpected happens or not,” she wrote. “Calming your anxiety is about only that: calming your anxiety. The crazy train of fear prevents you from being present to what is, and it most definitely keeps you from enjoying what is here in this moment.”

...while the majority of acute stress stems from external situations. stress work

“When it comes to stress, you know what you’re dealing with -- a looming deadline, bills, picking up the kids,” Spiegel says. “It’s these [outside stressors] that are able to be prioritized and handled one at a time.”

Spiegel suggests dismissing any thoughts of multitasking in order to better manage stress and to let go of the idea that you need to solve everything. “Figure out what you can do about things and what you can't,” he says. “Take on the things you can do something about and give yourself some credit when you’ve accomplished something.”

Anxiety and stress are often used interchangeably, even though they’re two different experiences. stress

By definition, anxiety and stress are categorized by separate feelings. The stress we experience in our day-to-day lives is associated with frustration and nervousness, where anxiety often comes from a place of fear, unease and worry. Still, despite the differences, many people use the terms interchangeably. In a blog post on Psychology Today, psychologist and psychotherapist Harriet Lerner explains why we tend to lump together each phrase pertaining to the emotional response:

In everyday conversation, we use the language of emotions that we're comfortable with and that fits our psychological complexion. I've worked with clients who don't report feeling anxious or afraid. "I'm incredibly stressed out..." is their language of choice. "Stressed" is the codeword for "totally freaked out" for people who are allergic to identifying and sharing their own vulnerability. Or, at the other linguistic extreme, a woman in therapy tells me that she feels "sheer terror" at the thought that her daughter's wedding dress will not fit her properly. I know her well enough to translate "sheer terror" into "really, really, worried." Whatever your emotional vocabulary, no one signs up for anxiety, fear and shame, or for any difficult, uncomfortable emotion. But we can't avoid these feelings, either.

“The key difference [between the two] is the sense of helplessness,” Spiegel explains. “When it comes to stress, you can deal with things and master them. By rolling up your sleeves and tackling that stress, you can feel less helpless.”

Where? Is? My? MOTIVATION??

Thank you Joyce Marter!! Depression is a huge case for my patients.   Tips for motivation is just one of the ways to punch depression in the face.

Make an appointment if you think you have depression.  You don't deserve it.  Let's throw it away.

I got you.

-- Dr. Dale

Zero Motivation to Go to Work? 10 Tips

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-marter-/zero-motivation-to-go-to-_b_4805174.html?utm_hp_ref=healthy-living

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We all need the occasional "mental health day" off from work to reboot our minds and bodies, but what if you have already called in sick one too many times? Assuming you're experiencing a normal ebb in the energy you have for work and not a more serious issue (like depression, addiction or abhorring your job, in which case you should consult a therapist immediately), here are some things you can do:

1) Incentivize yourself. Treat yourself to your favorite coffee or tea on your way to work. Make lunch plans. Schedule something nice after work, like a workout, a get-together with friends, or a pj's night at home with a good movie. Remind yourself these things are better than the guilt of calling in sick, the awkward excuses that need to be made (or the fake cough) and the overwhelm of twice as much work the next day.

2) Use a mantra. Select a positive statement to get you moving (i.e., "When I do the best that I can, I am my best self"). Personally, I like Dory's "Just Keep Swimming" from Finding Nemo.

3) Take it one step at a time. Baby steps. Get out of bed, shower, get dressed, have something to eat, make your way out the door, etc. I often find that once I get moving, I pull out of my funk and gain momentum. As a licensed mental health professional, I strongly recommend singing, "Put One Foot in Front of the Other."

4) Make things easier for yourself. Take a cab instead of the bus. Skip the trip to the dry cleaner. Wear something comfy. Cross off a couple of things on your "To Do" list to lighten the load. Ask for the support you need from your partner, friends and family (even if it's just a pep talk or a little prodding).

5) Shift into cruise control. We can't run full speed ahead every day, and there are some days that require autopilot. As a therapist, these are days that I might make fewer enthusiastic interpretations or coaching suggestions for my clients, and might hang back and just listen attentively and reflectively. Often, these ebbs in my energy are opportunities for my clients to step forward and to make their own insights and direction. So, running at a slower pace isn't always a bad thing as it can provide perspective.

6) Fly under the radar. If you are a little low in motivation, perhaps this isn't the day to have extensive interactions with your boss or team. Use whatever flexibility you can to limit interactions (i.e., put on your headset, keep your nose in your computer, shut your office door, etc.). Keep interactions brief and cordial to make the day more manageable.

7) Do the work that is easiest for you. Perhaps today isn't the day you are going to complete the big project, but keep in mind that anything you do at work (no matter how small) is more than what you would have accomplished if you called in sick. When my energy is low, I tend to focus on organization that preps me for days when my energy is higher. I might get some filing done, complete some mindless paperwork or make a supply run, rather than tackling something that requires more brain power or passion.

8) Be of service to somebody else. I love being a therapist because my work gets me out of my own head. I'm often surprised at how recalibrated my energy feels after a good session. Even opening a door for somebody, giving a compliment or offering support or mentoring to a less senior colleague can ignite your internal energy source.

9) Practice gratitude. Instead of focusing on all the reasons you really don't want to go to work (the icky weather, the lame meeting, or whatever it is), focus on the good parts. You are alive. You have a job. You aren't really sick, etc. Gratitude promotes positive thinking that attracts good energy.

10) Practice self-care. Practice a few minutes of deep breathing or guided meditation to revitalize yourself. Take breaks when you can at work. Get out of the office and walk around the block to clear the cobwebs from your mind. Get proper rest, nutrition and exercise. Consider a massage, mani-pedi or similar if within your budget. If not, choose self-care that is free, such as reading a book, taking a bubble bath, or practicing yoga. Refuel yourself so that tomorrow is a better day!

"Nothing will work unless you do." -- Maya Angelou