Stress vs Anxiety. What's the difference??

Thank you HuffPo for another great explanation of a common misconception.   They share many of the same symptoms, yet they are both triggered differently.  If you find yourself having anxiety attacks PLEASE come see me.  There are NON-medicinal relief strategies we can talk about (Yoga), and if that doesn't work a simple prescription does the trick for many of my patients.   Don't let fear or external situations affect your daily life.  SAY GOODBYE TO STRESS AND ANXIETY.  Say HELLO to a fresh smile. I got you.

-- Dr. Dale

The Difference Between Stress And Anxiety

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Lindsay Holmes

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It’s safe to assume that most of us have experienced stress in one form or another, whether it’s a deadline at work, a family conflict or an important decision. The constricting, chest-pressing fear can feel never ending and can put us into a state of unrest.

With stressful elements churning in our minds, it can be difficult to sort out how we’re feeling, and more importantly, whatlevel of stress we’re experiencing. It’s human nature to exaggerate, so there are many times when we claim we feel something more than we actually do. Enter (often false) statements like “This situation is giving me anxiety.” and “This whole thing is going to make me have a panic attack.”

So how can we tell when our stress is actually yielding to these conditions? David Spiegel, Stanford University’s associate chair of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, says that while the line between stress and anxiety often gets blurred, there are distinct things to be aware of -- including how these emotions affect the body and the root causes of each. Below, find five things you should know about stress, anxiety and how they really compare to each other.

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Stress and anxiety share many of the same physical symptoms.

Whether you’re tense or suffering from something more, the stressful and anxious emotions can sometimes bring the same feelings of arousal, Spiegel says. Stressful or anxious emotions speed up our heart beats, trigger rapid breathing and cause muscle tension. The similarities taper when anxiety yields to a panic attack, which brings about more severe versions of the symptoms, including chills, headaches, hot flashes and chest pains.

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The cause of acute stress is distinctly different from the cause of anxiety .

While there is definite overlap between stress and anxiety, Spiegel says that ultimately the two emotions come from two different places. “With stress, we know what’s worrying us but with anxiety you become less aware of what you’re anxious about [in the moment] and the reaction becomes the problem,” Spiegel explains. “You start to feel anxious about being anxious.”

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A lot of anxiety can stem from fear...

Phobias of events, activities or social situations are all rooted in terror, causing the person suffering from the disorder to panic when they come face-to-face with that stressor, Spiegel explains. “Anxiety is like a snowball,” he says. “Anxiety converts fear into feelings and people who suffer from it tend to avoid what’s making them fearful, which can make it worse.”

Writing in The Huffington Post, clinical counselor Megan Devine details how her constant fear of the unknown left her crippled with anxiety. In order to overcome that fear, she suggests addressing the fear head-on, then taking steps from there. “Remember that calming your anxiety is not one bit related to whether something unexpected happens or not,” she wrote. “Calming your anxiety is about only that: calming your anxiety. The crazy train of fear prevents you from being present to what is, and it most definitely keeps you from enjoying what is here in this moment.”

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...while the majority of acute stress stems from external situations.

“When it comes to stress, you know what you’re dealing with -- a looming deadline, bills, picking up the kids,” Spiegel says. “It’s these [outside stressors] that are able to be prioritized and handled one at a time.”

Spiegel suggests dismissing any thoughts of multitasking in order to better manage stress and to let go of the idea that you need to solve everything. “Figure out what you can do about things and what you can't,” he says. “Take on the things you can do something about and give yourself some credit when you’ve accomplished something.”

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Anxiety and stress are often used interchangeably, even though they’re two different experiences.

By definition, anxiety and stress are categorized by separate feelings. The stress we experience in our day-to-day lives is associated with frustration and nervousness, where anxiety often comes from a place of fear, unease and worry. Still, despite the differences, many people use the terms interchangeably. In a blog post on Psychology Today, psychologist and psychotherapist Harriet Lerner explains why we tend to lump together each phrase pertaining to the emotional response:

In everyday conversation, we use the language of emotions that we're comfortable with and that fits our psychological complexion. I've worked with clients who don't report feeling anxious or afraid. "I'm incredibly stressed out..." is their language of choice. "Stressed" is the codeword for "totally freaked out" for people who are allergic to identifying and sharing their own vulnerability. Or, at the other linguistic extreme, a woman in therapy tells me that she feels "sheer terror" at the thought that her daughter's wedding dress will not fit her properly. I know her well enough to translate "sheer terror" into "really, really, worried." Whatever your emotional vocabulary, no one signs up for anxiety, fear and shame, or for any difficult, uncomfortable emotion. But we can't avoid these feelings, either.

“The key difference [between the two] is the sense of helplessness,” Spiegel explains. “When it comes to stress, you can deal with things and master them. By rolling up your sleeves and tackling that stress, you can feel less helpless.”

Lesson #3 {Mental Health}

Cross It Off the List

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Samantha Bennett Creator, The Organized Artist Company

Consider the art of "selective neglect."

We know we're not going to get everything done today that we would like to get done.

We know that we're probably not going to get it done tomorrow, either.

So rather than walking around feeling bad about all the stuff we know we're not going to get to, let's do some strategic thinking about "the list" itself.

I've discussed before the the idea of moving your highest income-producing activities to the top of the list, and I still find that to be a useful tactic.

But what about eliminating some of the non-income producing activities entirely? (I know -- there goes your chances for being crowned Queen Perfectly Doing Everything.)

Seriously -- what could just go? And I don't just mean delegate, I mean eliminate.

For example:

    • Alison has an online grocery delivery service do the bulk of her weekly food shopping. Yes, this deprives her of the opportunity to squeeze her own melons, so to speak, but it saves this working mother at least two hours a week of parking, shopping and schlepping.

 

    • Nancy quit Facebook. Cold turkey. Probably gained her an extra 6-9 hours per week.

 

 

    • Jessica quit her church choir. "I loved the singing," she said, "But I was not loving the two-hour rehearsal each Thursday night. Being home with my family instead means we've started a weekly game night -- Bananagrams! -- and now in church on Sundays I get to just relax and enjoy church." So she gained two hours plus not having to be there early on Sunday -- probably three hours a week.

 

 

    • I put my husband in charge of all national and international events. I do skim the front section of the newspaper each day with one eye half-closed, just to stay abreast of the general news trends. But I realized that don't really want to take the time to learn all the details. Plus, I find the details depressing. But my husband reads everything cover to cover and is well-informed about almost everything and so, when I find myself wondering about what's actually going on in Tunisia, I just ask him. It's very refreshing to remain deliberately under-informed in this world of the non-stop news cycle. How much time do I save? Maybe 10 minutes a day plus a whole lot of brain space.

 

  • David sent out a hilarious post-holiday email to his family and friends saying something to the effect of, "Dear Ones, A better father would probably be able to get his kids to write thank-you notes. But I'm not that guy. So please accept this generic email as a sign of our sincerest thanks for the gift/card/well wishes you sent/made/delivered. We really like/appreciate/use it a lot. We love you. Sincerely..." This single dad's big savings was in deciding to quit nagging his kids. Again, some gain in time, probably, the bigger gain was in his newly-peaceful approach toward his kids.

So what could you just give up on?

HINTS:

    1. Look in the areas of your life where there are a lot of "shoulds" going on in your head.

 

    1. Be willing to sacrifice some pleasure for a greater good. All of the activities above were at least somewhat pleasurable -- Alison loves food and cooking, Nancy loved Facebook, Jessica loved her choir, I love being well-read and David loves having polite kids. But what if the gain in time or peace of mind is greater than the pleasure factor?

 

 

    1. Is the gain in time or peace of mind greater than the ego gratification? (This is a biggie -- so be gentle but firm with yourself in your answer to this one.) After all, it can feel pretty good to know that, "you did everything yourself, " or that "you stay connected online," or that "you sing," "you're informed," "you appear to have perfect kids." Your ego could take quite a hit, here. But there is great freedom in stepping down off the moral high ground.

 

 

    1. I would not eliminate anything in the arena of personal care. The time you spend working out, meditating and getting your hair cut is a valuable investment in your appearance and your self-respect. Clearly, this is just my big ol' opinion (and I suppose if you're spending an hour blow-drying your hair every morning or two hours a week at the manicurist keeping up your elaborate acrylics, you could consider an adjustment there...) but I really want you to keep your self feeling good and looking current. Not necessarily dressed in cutting-edge fashion, but in a style that is neat, clean, well-fitted to your lifestyle and, you know, from this decade.

 

  1. Try it before you decide. Consider eliminating something for a week or a month before you cut it out entirely. After all, if you really miss it, you can always go back to it.

So, what will you selectively neglect today?